5 Reasons Why You Should Elope

January 5, 2021


Here are my top 5 reasons why you should elope:

If you’re starting to plan your wedding, the thought of eloping might have come to mind at some point. It’s no surprise; elopements have been on the rise since 2017 and with 2020 being the year of COVID, having an intimate celebration with just you and your partner (or maybe with a few select guests), feels perfect for a lot of couples. I, too, am a huge fan of the idea of eloping and certainly plan to elope when it’s my time to get married! With that, I’ll be sharing my top 5 reasons why you should elope.

1. You Get a “Just Us” Experience

Having a traditional wedding usually means having a lot of people there for the celebration. It could be anywhere from 50 to 300 people who are there for your wedding. Having that many people present means that your energy is spent on greeting the guests, answering their questions, trying to have enough time to say hello to everyone who came, and sometimes feeling like you’re there for them and not for you and your new spouse.

Eloping, on the other hand, means that you can focus on *just* you and your partner. No need to focus on anybody else, especially if you elope with just you and your partner (and, yes, family and friends can be a part of your elopement, which you can read about here).

By eloping, you don’t have to rush back to your cocktail hour because your guests are hungry. You don’t have to spend your energy greeting everyone after your ceremony. You don’t have to be shy about your guests listening to your intimate wedding vows. You can take as much time as you need or want and spend all your time on your new spouse. Eloping gives you that magical “just us” experience that a bigger wedding won’t give you.

2. You Get a Reduced Amount of Wedding Day Drama

Larger traditional weddings tend to come with plenty of your guests’ opinions, which you may or may not welcome during your planning process. When family gets involved, they may try to influence you in doing things *they* want you to do, like follow archaic traditions that aren’t even close to anything meaningful to you, request that you invite a distant cousin you don’t talk to, or encourage you to do events during your reception that don’t relate to you at all. Planning seating charts can also create a lot of drama – you may not know where to seat that distant cousin or your aunt might have a fit if she’s not seated close to your table. The bottom line is this: with more people comes more opinions on how you should get married. Be eloping, you get to throw all of that out the window.

Eloping allows you to basically say “fuck it, I’m doing it my way.” You get to do whatever your heart desires. If you want to elope in a coffee shop, you can do that. If you want to elope while wearing a black wedding dress, you can do that. If you want to elope and include an ancient Greek wedding tradition, you can do that. Eloping removes the opinions of others and allows you to do what your heart desires. After all, it’s about you and your partner. Nobody else.

3. You Get to Spend Your Money on an Incredible Experience Instead of Other People

Let’s say you’re planning a traditional wedding with 100+ guests. Having that many people at your wedding means that you have to feed them, take care of them, and basically put together a very expensive show for them. Now, if you’re the type of person to spend your hard-earned money on an incredible trip to somewhere new, having to spend your money on feeding and taking care of a lot of people can often feel like you and your partner are removed from the equation. And that’s not what your wedding should feel like! I believe that you deserve to feel like your wedding is about *you* and not your guests.

By eloping, you get to spend your money on just *you and your partner* and create an incredible wedding experience that truly reflects who you are as a couple. If you’re the type to relax on the weekends at home with your partner and your furry friends, you can elope in your backyard (or even in your home!) and have your furry friends be a part of your celebration and spend money on delicious delivery food. If you’re the type to spend your time off adventuring to new breweries (let’s just pretend we’re not still living in a pandemic for a minute…), then you can elope in a beer garden and spend your money on checking out all the cool breweries nearby. If you’re the type to hike a mountain peak on your days off, you and your partner can hike a mountain, say your vows with gorgeous views as your ceremony backdrop, and spend the day adventuring around with your photographer so you can remember every magical part of your wedding day spent with the love of your life.

The point is this: by eloping, you don’t have to invest money and time in your guests. You can spend your precious resources on you and your partner by creating a magical elopement experience that truly reflects who you are. What can be better than that?

4. You Get to Start Your Marriage with an Amazing Adventure

If you can’t tell already, eloping no longer means that you’re secretly running off to the courthouse to get married and then you’re done. Rather, it means you can have an adventurous elopement right in your hometown, across the country, or even across the world! The limit does not exist (any Mean Girl fans?) when it comes to eloping. You truly get to do *whatever* you want!

With that said, having an elopement means you can start your marriage off with an amazing adventure. So, what does that mean for you? Well, it can be anything that means the most to you and your partner. Like I mentioned above, you can incorporate elements of your relationship into your elopement (and you should) and create an incredible adventure out of it. This can be anything you dream of but here are some ideas: waking up at sunrise to drive to the Rocky Mountains and say your vows at an alpine lake (like these two did); travel to a state you’ve never been to before to say your vows in the middle of the desert (like this), or rent an Earthship just outside of Taos, New Mexico and elope with your dog as your witness (like this!).

By eloping and removing the complexity of dealing with guests and their personal opinions, you can create a magical adventure for your wedding day and start your marriage off with an experience that brings you true joy, excitement, and meaning.

5. You Get to Be Different

Have you ever looked at a wedding blog or wedding magazine and saw several weddings that all felt the same, as if they all went with a cookie cutter wedding template and didn’t include anything that truly felt unique? Well, you don’t have to fit into that cookie cutter template for your wedding. By eloping, you have the freedom to be different and create a wedding day that is truly unique.

Eloping means stripping your wedding day from traditions of the past, getting rid of things that don’t mean anything to you, and incorporating elements that are intimate, meaningful, and unique to you and your partner. You have the freedom and flexibility to create a wedding experience that has *all* the things you enjoy and love. So if that looks different from all the wedding blogs you’ve seen, that’s actually a good thing. Because you know what? That means that you’re focusing on you, what you’re interested in, what you and your partner’s personalities are like, and using all of those elements to create an experience that reflects *you*. Because, again, in the end, your wedding is about *you* and not other people.

Let’s Elope!

With all of that said, how do you feel about the thought of eloping? Does it feel right to you? Does it feel like you can create a wedding experience that is a true reflection of your love? If that’s a “yes,” then why don’t we start planning your elopement! Message me here to get going on your elopement plans. Because you know what? You deserve to have an incredible wedding experience with just you and your partner. Always.


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